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Sunday, November 18, 2007, 07:03 PM ( 3 views )  - Posted by Administrator
“ This is not my life”. I had this revelation on Thursday morning when I was sitting across the desk from an engineer who was explaining the Static Stability Factor to me. I drove five hours to see him in an effort to try and comprehend how this accident could happen to J.T., to understand the numerous design flaws of the Yamaha Rhino. I began to think wow this is really an amazing thing, I cant believe I’m sitting here. I am supposed to be a housewife in East Texas,not some public speaking, computer blogging, ATV activist! We don’t always know as humans what we are capable of; we have no idea of our limits. I truly believe that accomplishing some things lies only in our will to do so. I found this quote by Tom Krause earlier that basically sums it up: “If you only do what you know you can do-you never do very much.”

Sunday, November 11, 2007, 10:12 AM ( 2 views )  - Posted by Administrator
In my mind is an ongoing tennis match. I am constantly lobbing my worries to the other side of my mind sending them momentarily out of my control only to have them come screaming back across the net at me seconds later. I am not sure who occupies the court on the opposing side but they have a hell of a backhand.

Thursday, November 8, 2007, 08:55 AM ( 1 view )  - Posted by Administrator
I find myself continuing to compare the loss of J.T. to surviving a fire. Now granted I have never had to survive a fire but I can imagine what it might be like. Walking around sifting through great mountains of charred debris trying to find things to put into a box marked “treasures”. Looking desperately at each item and wishing I could restore its value. The black soot covering my hands and face, not stopping because I know there is something in this pile I could hold on to, something to remind me of what I had. I often feel like I am sorting through the smoldering treasures of my life searching for understanding. Looking for greater knowledge of my situation. Picking pieces up, trying to assign it some value and more likely than not watching it crumble and run through my fingers like warm, black sand. Trying to comprehend what is now important, reburying my regrets and not stopping until I find something to hold on to.

Wednesday, November 7, 2007, 10:17 AM  - Posted by Administrator
The dictionary defines the word denial as a psychological defense mechanism in which confrontation with a personal problem or with reality is avoided. However I think a better definition for denial is the most common form of self-preservation humans’ use. I know that denial plays a large part in the grieving process and I am in the thick of it. I keep J.T.’s room just like he left it, right down to the toys under his bed, for what? Fear that when he returns he will be upset because they are not where he left them. That to me is easier to tell myself. That is denial. We all use it in some form or fashion to help ourselves cope with situations, just as Yamaha uses it. They deny the number of accidents, lives they are taking, people being maimed. They sit on their perch of denial because the reality is too much to face. The perch is now full of grieving parents, spouses, and siblings. Here we all sit trying to face our reality. I suppose misery really does need company.

Sunday, November 4, 2007, 06:31 PM ( 68 views )  - Posted by Administrator
Today my feelings range somewhere between angry and hopeless. I know these emotions will not take up permanent residence in me because I am like a broken piece of china held together with Band-Aids and super glue. Whatever fills up this vessel eventually trickles out. A while ago my Sister-in-law gave me a book. The title is Prayers for Emotional Wholeness by Stormie Omartian I found this prayer on page 199 and it stuck with me today.
Lord I cry out to you today and ask you to give me relief from the difficult things I am facing. Bring them to a good conclusion as only you can do. I know you understand all I am going through, and you see all I do and what I am up against. You even know my thoughts about my circumstances right now. Help me navigate these rough waters so that I can not only survive, but come through victoriously.

This prayer is based on scripture from Psalm 138:3 In the day when I cried out, you answered me, and made me bold with strength in my soul.

If you find yourself facing down a corporation or just trying to make it through the day…Here’s hoping we all have a little of God’s strength right now.

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